It would be easy to say this is just breaking barriers. But its not that simple.
In my community i don't notice many black women and white men dating. However every so often I come accross a couple of a white woman and a black man.
In fact, very often, its the most notorious guy in the neighbourhood that has a white girlfriend.
Why ?
Why is a relation of a white woman and a black man, more common than vice versa ?|||Black man/white woman is more common for a lot of reasons:
-Black men are probably the most aggressive I've seen as far as pursuing who they are interested in, white women probably second. Black women are among the least aggressive, and part of that is just being socialized as women that men should approach women. I see a lot of black women interested in men, including white guys, but they insist the guy has to come to them. Less white women do this, and this has largely become more of a cultural difference than a gender difference. With white men not being as aggressive as black men or white women, combined with the extra racial issues when a white guy is interested in a black woman (not even just racism, but more like "whoa, how do I approach a black woman??" or "I heard black women only like black men...I'll probably get rejected"), that leaves a lot of black women waiting forever and ever for an approach that is not forthcoming
-Like some others have suggested, black men view white women as a prize and a step up in society. Black women don't view white men quite the same way, usually. You say the most "notorious" guy usually has a white girlfriend. My observation has actually been that the more money a black guy has or obviously will have some day, the more you can just about bank on his having a white, Asian or Latina female on his arm. With other black guys, you might see them in interracial relationships, but it seems less likely just because--and this might seem offensive, but--the average white woman cares about money in a man a little too much to be dating guys, especially a black one, who doesn't have much and because black guys with less money tend to be in predominantly black environments (making it more likely he'll get with a black female) more than black guys with money.
If you don't believe me, sit and take account of black male celebrities (including athletes) who have non-black girlfriends or wives and ones who actually have a black woman. With these black guys, having a non-black female is another sign he has "made it" in America--honestly, the same is true for Asians and Latinos. And even if a black guy starts out with a black woman, if he has money or once he gets it, you can bet he'll either leave for a non-black woman or he's going to have an affair with one (or more). I'm waiting on Obama's @ss to do it, haha. As far as what I said about white women and money, again, it's just a cultural difference. White girls are more often taught growing up to find someone "who can take care of them." Black women are not taught that, on average.
I'm not sure how to explain why the same is not true for black women, i.e. the prize/step up thing. Some of it might be history, some of it just the difference between how men value mates and how women do, some of it being how women experience more crap in society regardless of race. In terms of history, when we hear about all the bad things that happen, black women notice it's usually a white man behind it...including things like slavery and raping black female workers. As far as values...very hard to explain, but one thing is that men have always emphasized (lighter) skin color in preferencing people; women do it less, it seems, and look at more practical things in mates. Discrimination--women tend to want someone whom they feel can relate to them and understand them. The average black female doesn't feel white men can do that because there is a huge privilege/life experiences gap there. The gap is smaller between black men and white women--both experience discrimination to the point where it's the norm in their lives, so white women can empathize with and somewhat compare to black men.|||Black men think of it as a power thing ... they gonna get themselves a white girl . Usually they wind up with a red headed overweight girl they drive around town with in their cutlass supreme, but that's beside the point.
White men usually don't want to disappoint their Mothers and plus they don't like loud aggressive women.
Usually the good looking white girls that are with blacks are mad at Daddy and this is their revenge.
See...? Easy to explain.|||Does it really matter when or how it began? People get involved because of proximity, attraction, need, accessibility, for financial or sexual reasons, etc.
The opposite has always occur ed but not so openly or embraced as the former. Slave owners regularly had relationships (forced or not) with enslaved Black women and bore children.|||I guess white guys feel the same way that the black dudes feel.most black women have attitude problems! and they also just might not find them attractive.
I also noticed that the black guys usually only get that ugly fat white girl who probably has low self esteem because no white guy wants her so she settles for a black guy and the black guy is just happy that she is WHITE! thats all it takes.|||well the first interracial marriage happened between a black woman and white man. They started the pathway for interracial marriages. It was Loving vs Virginia. I'm sure you heard of that. Who knows how interracial relations/marriage would be today if it weren't for them.|||Alot of black men are coons and think they can make a come up via a woman (since many are uneducated and have records).
Black women are independet and don't see men for a come up...however alot of black women are epanding their options these days...the educted ones at least.|||It's been shown in the media so long that people think that's what they should do...
They demonize or make glaring stereotypes of ethnic women and make white women out to be beautiful and something to attain.|||What does it really matter? People should date whomever they want, for whatever reasons they want. It's between the two of them and if they are happy together, more power to them.|||i agree w/ wot wot, but don't forget many white girls are golddiggers, they are w/ the rich black guys for their $$. and ya know it's true.|||I have a lot of white guy friends, plus my boyfriend is white.|||I'm like the jeffersons neighbors... i am Tom
SteveC|||Go to redneck doing gettho girls.com, the rebel flag is still alive|||opposites attract
black guys are sexy and tough
white guys are goofy and weak|||because loves sees no color
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